Thursday, May 05, 2005

Thick skinned and proud of it

For those who are feeling BAD:

I used to be quite sensitive to things. Human nature I guess. We all are to some degree. Trawling for compliments, fishing for adulation.

R' Dessler wrote that a person who has a healthy appreciation of their self-worth, that they are a good person ("Bishvili Nivra Haolam", the world was created for ME) will not require the approbation of others. Nor should insults or disparagement affect them (sticks and stones). R' Twersky talks about this a lot as well.

I think I've internalized this idea over the course of time. I know I am basically a good person. Heck, you are too. You are kind, generous, friendly, you don't murder, molest anyone or swindle millions of dollars. So what if some stupid fat-headed ignorant runt calls you chubby, or smelly, or doesn't like your new haircut, or is jealous of the new boyf. SCREW THEM. You are bigger and better than them, and their opinion holds no sway with you.

Hope it helps.



At 5/05/2005 10:29 PM, Blogger Behind A Door said...

True, someone may be an overall good person, but when insults ring true, and are about stuff that you've been trying to work on (being called insensitive) its hard to just brush it off...

At 5/06/2005 1:41 AM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...


I don't know what possible motivation these people might have for insulting you. We all have plenty we can work on, but that doesn't make us BAD people except you (sorry, poor gag).

If I was being mythical (mystical with a lithp) I would say the Satan is insulting you so that you'll stop working on that middah. You know you are a good person, you are working on it, it's not easy but you are doing it, so ignore them. Now you are being OVER sensitive.



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