Sunday, September 18, 2005

Help me help you help me

Haven't you found that helping others, giving them advice, being a good listener is sometimes the best tonic for yourself? When you are surrounded by woes, singing the blues, down in the dumps, turn to a friend. Not for help, but to help them. You warm them up, which warms you up, which warms them up even more. It works.

The only problem is, I am the best at giving this advice out and the worst at listening to it. Including this one (bit of a circular conundrumic paradox there, on a par with "I always lie").

TRK

11 Comments:

At 9/18/2005 3:06 PM, Blogger dietgarage said...

karma maybe?
or psychology?
regardless - true.

 
At 9/18/2005 3:06 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

or your neshomah feels better?

so why can't I take my own advice?

 
At 9/18/2005 3:55 PM, Blogger Karl said...

I know how you feel, but its only the advice you want to listen to that you do listen to.
Perhaps its the control, dominating part of it that gives you the warm feeling, rather than the helping-hand side to it.
Or perhaps you just need a listner to turn round and give some advice.
Its usually because you know what you want to hear before it is said, regardless of the answer.

 
At 9/18/2005 3:58 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

yes I do Karl, and I would say the exact same things to myself, were I in fact schizo, yet it doesn't help, because my defense mechanisms are all set up nicely in advance

 
At 9/18/2005 4:22 PM, Blogger brianna said...

Wow it's great that you can handle listening to others and their sorrows. It just makes me depressed. But wow, that's a good quality to have. :)

 
At 9/18/2005 4:24 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

Bri,

I'm sure you are a great and sensitive listener, and you probably have to deal with friends with greater issues than I do. I can also only had helping people in small quantities, being the selfish self-centered pleasure-seeking egoist that I am

 
At 9/19/2005 1:46 PM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

i love cheering people up. but does it make me feel better about my problems? not really. what it does is make me feel useful.

 
At 9/20/2005 1:03 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

feeling useful is definitely a good start - keep that up

 
At 10/02/2005 9:03 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Being able to give the good advice in my opinion means it is really in your character... you are porbably mixed up with so many other people that block your true goodness / light, I don't meant to sound kabalistic but maybe it's time to "DETOX".

 
At 10/16/2005 3:17 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

anonymous, care to elaborate?

 
At 2/06/2006 5:40 AM, Blogger the sabra said...

so i have a question, prompted by what TRK posted above (Bri, I'm sure you are a great and sensitive listener...)
why do ppl do that!? ok time to be a bit more specific, eh? lemme try again-
why do ppl comfort others with this vague, air-based assurance-don't worry, im sure youll be fine dont worry, everything is ok and ur great and e/o loves you bla bla bla
no! sometimes they are not ok,and they do need help/advice/solution
anyone know what im talking about? or yall too busy thinkin how to comfort me from my frustrations?

 

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