Monday, October 24, 2005

The Pretty Woman dance

You wink at me, turn your head slightly, flick your hair back. I'll sidle over and introduce myself, get your name, more your number.

I'll call, we'll talk, soon meet, and walk. Coffee, food, dinner and drinks. A true gentleman, suave and witty, cocksure yet good-humored.

We'll dance around each other, twirling, whirling, feeling the tempo, the beat cursing through our veins. Can you feel the rhythm?

But don't you know the music ends? Can't you hear the band fading out, the song never goes on forever. You are so beautiful a vessel, fair of skin with a smile so radiant it could light its way through a three state power cut.

Yet this is just a one-time dance. I have to go back across the country, to dance where I live, not to return to this dancefloor for a while.

Why would you think that I would look for a dancing partner based on her looks? Aren't you aware it's a game I play, a compulsion when faced with pretty dancers, something I can't control. This is the way of the world, the sky is blue, the sea is wet, and TRK dances with pretty girls.

But TRK's full time dancing partner will not be a particularly pretty face, one who has always had dancers chase her all her life. No, this is not the way. I will dance to my own tune, with someone who can hear that music too.

Happy hunting

TRK

27 Comments:

At 10/24/2005 8:15 AM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

TRK - you can waste a lot of time on the dance and on the pretty faces. start waltzing the potential Mrs. Trk's. Don't wait for them to find you...go out and find them. The superficial single dances will grow tedious.

 
At 10/24/2005 9:08 AM, Blogger Karl said...

How about doing as you preach, if you are not preaching what you do. You can't have it both ways.
"But TRK's full time dancing partner will not be a particularly pretty face,"
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you don't think Mrs TRK is pretty, you will have serious problems.

 
At 10/24/2005 2:30 PM, Blogger Littleredridinghoodie said...

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At 10/26/2005 6:20 PM, Anonymous Chai said...

So what hope is there for us 'pretty girls'? :)

In all seriousness - as serious as a tipsy girl can be - I agree with Mata Hari. However, TRK, who says a pretty girl can't dance to the same music as you? And Karl's got a point too. She's got to be the 'prettiest' in your eyes...

I guess I'll have to take my friend's advice - 'get a fake ring and use it when needed' - to ward of all the chasers...

 
At 10/26/2005 10:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sounds like you have never found true love...

 
At 10/26/2005 11:01 PM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

Chai - what happened to your blog?

 
At 10/26/2005 11:11 PM, Blogger brianna said...

Sometimes a pretty face can be more than she seems to be.

 
At 10/26/2005 11:37 PM, Blogger dietgarage said...

oh - "pretty faces" (or for guys "hunk" )the term doesnt refer to anyone with something behind their face (or bicep - they are excluded) and dancing isnt the place to meet a long-time partner anyway (although we all need a little fun every now and then i prefer a good conversation over coffee- how cliche')
ahh life gets complicated

 
At 10/27/2005 7:02 AM, Blogger Chai18 said...

marry whoever you want regardless of what they look like

 
At 10/27/2005 11:27 AM, Anonymous Chai said...

Sorry, MH, been too busy to even think about what I'd call it, forget about what to write... My co decided she 'needed time off', so I was left to run the show, plus with all the holidays, it's been mad.
Hopefully things'll calm down and I'll get around to it, but I dunno when that'll be...

 
At 10/27/2005 1:22 PM, Blogger Littleredridinghoodie said...

Is it possible to find a full time dancing partner? I do not know anyone that is happily married. This woman I sat next to in shul last RH YK did not show this year. I just found out why, her husband (a guy that asked me before he proposed if her father was a big "Baal Tzedaka") after impregnating her 4 times was found fooling around with 12 young girls in the community and finally dumped her and the kids for a 42 yr old woman to top it off he is a Kohen. The sad thing is that they were the ones I thought were happy! His wife (the dumpee) hosted at my Bat Mitzvah! Now, I have lost faith completely.

Another couple I thought was happy (good actors they wer just at my sister's Sheva brachot last March) just split up, he came home from Asia with an Asian "Nanny" changed the locks and dumped all her stuff including an open box of tampons on her mother’s lawn. This woman gave up her career as a dental hygienist to stay home and have babies, doing chessed around the community. When she tried to contact her 16 yr old daughter (I babysat for) the girl said "the next time I want to see you is in your coffin" Then her "Ex" tried to have her committed soliciting letters from the community that she is nuts (he did not get any) but he can still afford the better lawyer!

 
At 10/27/2005 6:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

seems like you're still playing around?

 
At 10/29/2005 8:41 PM, Blogger Semgirl said...

What on earth are you talking about. Are you saying you prefer personality to just looks. Or that you arent interested in settling down yet.

 
At 10/30/2005 8:04 AM, Blogger ClooJew said...

LRH,

Sounds like, lulei demistafina, you need your own blog to air your grievances. But since we're on the subject...

Your story seems a bit one-sided. Why would the 16-yr-old daughter say a thing like that if her mother was so wonderful? And don't tell me that the dad brainwashed her--sixteen is old enough to tell your dad to jump in the lake, if he did something so dastardly to your mom.

 
At 10/30/2005 8:05 AM, Blogger ClooJew said...

TRK,

I really do not, lulei demistafina, envy your situation.

You can't seem to let go of the candy. And that's a problem that will prevent you from getting married or will haunt you once you do.

 
At 10/30/2005 10:37 AM, Blogger Littleredridinghoodie said...

ClooJew,
Does a car, Harvard education, inheritance, shares of her father's company and not having to wear skirts, getting to keep her boyfriend and not do anything to earn it sound like enough? (Basically the 16 year old is getting everything her mother is trying to sue for.)

My point was that dancing is beautiful (to watch) but I do not want to be there when the music ends... Oh and, NEVER leave your day job for a dance!

 
At 10/30/2005 10:39 AM, Blogger Littleredridinghoodie said...

PS Just to clarify,
Her mom makes her be frum...

 
At 10/30/2005 9:27 PM, Blogger Shopaholic said...

"Yet this is just a one-time dance. I have to go back across the country, to dance where I live, not to return to this dancefloor for a while."


Hey TRK, Why dont you try going to a dance were you'll know you'll like the music-

Thats a good start a meeting thoes "who can hear that music too"...

 
At 10/31/2005 7:13 AM, Blogger ClooJew said...

LRH,

Thanks for the clarity. Sounds like there is, lulei demistafina, a much deeper backstory. Was this a frum family to begin with? Did the daughter go to yeshivos her whole life? Did the father wander off the derech?

You can't make a sixteen year old be frum. You can't make 'em do anything.

 
At 10/31/2005 8:08 AM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

"You can't seem to let go of the candy"

CJ - i know the spirit in which this was intended, but i'm sorry - i find it sexist to call women candy. would you ever tell a woman that she can't seem to let go of the candy, referring to guys?

 
At 10/31/2005 12:30 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

MH,
No, that's our weiner, they can't seem to get enough of ;)

 
At 10/31/2005 1:18 PM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

anonymous - yes, i'm sure YOU think so.

 
At 11/04/2005 10:31 AM, Blogger ClooJew said...

Mata,

That's the point. In THIS context it's treating women like candy.

That's not how they OUGHT to be treated or thought of. Therein lies the problem.

Once you start thinking of women as more than a means to your manly pleasures, you can settle down.

Unfortunately, some people can't get past that.

 
At 11/05/2005 3:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cloojew,
Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't it the MAN's job to please the woman in Judiasm?

 
At 11/06/2005 3:12 PM, Blogger ClooJew said...

Um, yes.

Are you insinuating that, lulei demistafina, I indicated otherwise?

 
At 11/07/2005 5:47 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once you start thinking of women as more than a means to your manly pleasures, you can settle down.

No, just trying to clarify...

 
At 11/08/2005 4:16 AM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

CJ - manly pleasures??? what a quaint phrase. what kinds of books have you been reading?

 

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