Saturday, December 24, 2005

On women, a clarification

I get the impression that my previous post was misunderstood by my female readership. Like all the great philosphers, thinkers and poets throughout history, my words are being debated in bars and batey midrash up and down the country. Or maybe not.

What I do mean is that most people of the female persuasion (I love persuading people they are female!) want a man with some courage, cahunas, bravado, spiwit. Stwike him thentuwian, stwike him wufly and fwow him to the floow.

They like a guy who will go up to them and talk to them, ask them for their number, take an interest in them. They are far more likely to want that guy rather than the shy retiring one who sits in the corner all night saying nothing. Be the big bear with the claws.

Too many guys waste too many opportunities to meet good girls because they sit around on their safe, cowardly ass. That's my point. That's the way they are programmed. And once you've got their number and asked them out - compliment them. They deserve it. Be interested in what they have to say. That's what they are looking for.

Thanks for listening

TRK

39 Comments:

At 12/24/2005 6:42 PM, Anonymous Brooklyn Bochur said...

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers,

Well, it was nearly all summer we sat on your roof
Yeah, we smoked cigarettes and we stared at the moon
And i'd show you stars you never could see
Baby, it couldn't have been that easy to forget about me

Baby, time meant n othing, anything seemed real
Yeah, you could kiss like fire and you made me feel
Like every word you said was meant to be
No, it couldn't have been that easy to forget about me

Baby, even the losers get lucky sometimes
Even the lo sers keep a little bit of pride
They get lucky sometimes

Two cars parked on the overpass,
Rocks hit the water like broken glass
I should have known right then it was too good to last
God, it's such a drag when you're livin' in the past

Baby, even the losers get lucky sometimes
Even the losers keep a little bit of pride
They get lucky sometimes

Baby, even the losers get lucky sometimes
Even the losers keep a little bit of pride
Yeah, they get lucky sometimes

Baby, even the losers get lucky sometimes
Even the losers get lucky sometimes

Even the losers get lucky sometimes
Even the losers get lucky sometimes
Even the losers get lucky sometimes

 
At 12/24/2005 11:22 PM, Blogger Eshet Chayil said...

I get it now....I think

 
At 12/24/2005 11:25 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

Tis a pleasure EC, glad I could help, no hard feelings.

Thanks BB

 
At 12/25/2005 12:23 AM, Blogger Lost said...

dude, i wholeheartedly agree. i ask guys out. why cant s/o ask me my name?

 
At 12/25/2005 3:24 AM, Blogger Semgirl said...

You go for it !!! TRK

 
At 12/25/2005 6:03 AM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

Those metaphors sure can be tricky :)

 
At 12/25/2005 7:45 AM, Blogger Eshet Chayil said...

k...

 
At 12/25/2005 8:34 AM, Blogger Masmida said...

It's alright, EC, it's easier if you take an almost anthropologic approach to it. or maybe just don't take it to seriously.

 
At 12/25/2005 9:16 AM, Blogger David_on_the_Lake said...

Are you living in the frum world?

 
At 12/25/2005 1:54 PM, Blogger FrumGirl said...

Sure, TRK... suuuuuure....

 
At 12/25/2005 2:28 PM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

FG,

Suuuure what?

David, I understand things are different in the frum world, but many of the same principles apply.

Masmida, I am very serious.

SG, I have gone for it/am going for it.

Lost, keep it up, one guy will appreciate you for who you are.

 
At 12/25/2005 3:50 PM, Blogger brianna said...

Is that all you were saying? Really? Yes, we like our guys aggressive and well manly. We like guys who take the initiative. But we also like respect. Those of us with self esteem do, anyway.

 
At 12/26/2005 2:51 AM, Anonymous DH said...

Cahunas!
You have made this *much* too easy for me.

 
At 12/26/2005 6:08 AM, Blogger The Rabbi's Kid said...

dh,

care to elaborate by e-mail what have I made too easy? I ain't following you!

 
At 12/26/2005 6:11 AM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

well said Brianna

 
At 12/26/2005 10:10 AM, Anonymous Brooklyn Bochur said...

Brina,

One who gives respect is respected. (I wish I could claim credit for that one but it is Pirkei Avos)

 
At 12/26/2005 1:06 PM, Blogger Eshet Chayil said...

I'll just sit and watch...I'm so confused at this blog.

 
At 12/26/2005 1:58 PM, Blogger brianna said...

"One who gives respect is respected." I beg to disagree. You can kiss a person's toes till you're blue in the face but that won't make them respect you. In fact it'll almost certainly have the opposite effect. The way to command respect is to a) be confidant and b)deserve it or make people think you do!

 
At 12/26/2005 2:13 PM, Blogger Masmida said...

EC,
it'll become much clearer when you start to date and you have to tease some sort of personality out of a guy who can't put three sentences together.

Its all easier if you don't take dating or guys too seriously. [Note to other readers this applies only to girls] Smooth guys are easier dates, but the ones who are a little more awkward are generally the ones who are actually taking you seriously.

and the actual relationship gets intresting if you get to the point where you're not even thinking about whether the guy is smooth or not and you're just talking.

 
At 12/26/2005 3:26 PM, Blogger Paya Chadasha said...

hi

 
At 12/26/2005 3:47 PM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

EC - what's not to understand? He said that girls like guys who have the guts to come up to them, talk to them, ask them out, compliment them, show their interest....not the guys who sit on the sidelines and are afraid to make a move.

 
At 12/26/2005 4:56 PM, Anonymous Brooklyn Bochur said...

Brianna,

"kissing someone's toes" is not respect, that is not even self respect... if that's what you want someone to kiss your toes get a slave because no man (unless it is his fetish) will kiss your toes. Kavod ben adam retzono.. Respect is respecitng the other person's wishes.

ex: he hates kissing toes, so you don't make him.

 
At 12/28/2005 4:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

No offence, but that was one heck of a terrible analogy to get that out.
But it was a good point.

 
At 12/28/2005 8:05 PM, Blogger longbrownponytail said...

You are a funny one. ;)

 
At 12/28/2005 8:24 PM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

TRK - how about a post for the ladies? why don't you give us some tips on how to deal with the guys?

 
At 12/29/2005 1:46 AM, Blogger Datingmaster, Jerusalem said...

this is so true

 
At 12/29/2005 6:53 AM, Blogger TRW said...

It's fascinating to see guys try to give out their wisdom on the "gentle sex."

I would expound, but I'm way too annoyed.

 
At 12/29/2005 6:53 AM, Blogger TRW said...

BTW, EC-ditto

 
At 12/29/2005 6:07 PM, Blogger longbrownponytail said...

I think it works both ways "Women, have no fear use your claws" we could eliminate all kedusha and just move in, capoeira style! lol

 
At 12/29/2005 6:35 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

personnaly, this is all crap.
guys go around trying to figure out what girls want and girls are annoyed because they always get it wrong. Then girls try to figure out what guys want and the guys get annoyed because we always get it wrong.
Stop trying to figure out what goes through our minds because you never will! Just figure out what you want, verbalize it, and then we have something to work with!

 
At 12/30/2005 5:26 AM, Blogger IM y4kki said...

You're all ridiculous.

1. The bear claws was not a good idea to explain your thoughts, but nice attempt at recovery.

2. Guys, if you want some really good advice - say as little as possible (but yes say something)! Women like to talk and appreciate someone who actually listens.

 
At 12/30/2005 6:47 AM, Blogger Shopaholic said...

imy4kki-as someone who has been told I talk to much- I agree!! although I do need the guy to answer back...give his opinion...

 
At 12/30/2005 8:09 AM, Blogger Masmida said...

Cheers for Anonymous!

Not my favorite word choice but definitely agree with the idea.

 
At 12/31/2005 3:27 PM, Blogger zenjew said...

hey lost.

you ask guys out?

who have you asked out recently?

what's your name?

 
At 1/04/2006 5:53 PM, Blogger iSrAeLiWannab said...

is lost a guy or girl? im so confused...

 
At 1/04/2006 5:53 PM, Blogger iSrAeLiWannab said...

is lost a guy or girl? im so confused...

 
At 1/05/2006 6:16 PM, Blogger Steve said...

yeah im not with you on this one rabbi kid - there's nothing wrong with having bravado perse, but if its part of some archetypal masculine trait then its hardly original. I think women want an honest, real person more than they want someone with bear claws.

As the good Roman Senator said in Gladiator, the gentlest touch commands obedience. Win a persons heart, and there will be loyalty.

 
At 1/06/2006 10:37 AM, Blogger Masmida said...


why guys chase?

 
At 5/04/2006 10:30 AM, Anonymous curlyjew said...

WOW...A guy who actually gets it.
The guy should pursue the gals... if the gals pursue the guys, thats cool, but i think they only come to that because the guys dont get off their butts and say hey, wats up..wats your name? its come to a point that when a guy may be audacious enough to make a move, the girls are not receptive to it. They think it's strange..what kind of culture are we breeding?!! this is not healthy. We all have inclinations towards the opposite sex and everyone is frustrated and repressed. AHHHH!!!
It's ridiculous.

 

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