Monday, January 16, 2006

Open my eyes

Thank you, oh worthy blogger. Thank you for broadening my horizons, for opening my eyes. For giving others the opportunity to put their thoughts down for the world to see, and for giving me the privilege to read them and catch a glimpse into the life of others different to me.

I no longer have much contact with my charedi friends, they are all grown up, with ever-growing families, secluded and sheltered in their own communities. When I see them on the street (if they stray into this part of the world) I think to myself, "although we learn the same torah, keep the same mitzvot, worship the same G-d, we really don't have that much in common".

And then I discovered blogs. Blogs from people in that world, boys and girls who have far more in common with me than I could ever have realized. Similar struggles, issues concerning emunah, action, relationships, achievements, attitude, society etc etc.

Now, when I see them on the street, I wonder "hmmmm, could that be a fellow blogger? even if not, maybe he/she really is going through similar stuff to me".

Thank you blogger for opening my eyes.

TRK

26 Comments:

At 1/16/2006 10:04 AM, Blogger FrumGirl said...

It really is amazing how blogging creates a support network even though it is mostly anonymous. It is also sad how most people have to be inhibited for fear of what the other person is going to say and they can only be real here in blogworld iwth their thoughts or hidden actions.

But hey - if this is the only place they can be real at least this place exists. therapuetic. I am so glad that you find what you need here in blogworld. I am so glad you can recognize what it does for you and can give thanks.

I detect loneliness within you. Actually you kind of scream it without saying much. Cheer up, TRK, it cant be that bad....

 
At 1/16/2006 11:54 AM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

It's always so much easier to share when we don't have to worry about being judged

 
At 1/16/2006 12:20 PM, Blogger Shopaholic said...

I'm honored and truly touched to to be a (your) fellow blogger.


(and you know my ears are b'h still in good working order...since the last time I checked!)

 
At 1/16/2006 12:32 PM, Blogger Jameel @ The Muqata said...

FrumGirl; Why do you think its all mostly anonymous?

 
At 1/16/2006 2:47 PM, Blogger Jak Black said...

Jameel,

It's the nature of so many types of Orthodox circles that even a slight deviation, whether right or left, is treated as a crisis. Thus most posters are afraid their (real) opinions will become publicized, and they will face censure or worse.

If I posted using my real identity, I'd probably get fired from my job and thrown out of my community. Plus, if you look at my blog, you'll see that I cover some...ehem, sensitive topics. You just can't do that if you use your real name.

 
At 1/16/2006 3:09 PM, Blogger Masmida said...

Oh, yes. They are going through something similar to what you are or have gone through.

Just think of all the times you've pasted on a smile and dealt with the rest of the world until you finally could go to a safe place and just fall apart.

One of the keys to understanding the rest of the world is that everyone hurts.

 
At 1/16/2006 3:23 PM, Blogger FrumGirl said...

Jameel, I guess it is for me. I stand corrected if it isn't so for most. Hey, Jameel, you are still posting comments?

 
At 1/17/2006 4:03 AM, Blogger yakki said...

B"H for blogs. As for anonymity: I think its a shame some people are afraid to be who they are IRL. You only live once.

 
At 1/17/2006 7:04 AM, Blogger Eshet Chayil said...

Mata hari is so right. I love being able to ask questions and write what I want without worrying about saying the wrong things to the wrong people.

 
At 1/17/2006 7:40 AM, Blogger turquoiseblue said...

Love blogworld too! and all the new vistas it opened for me... as it did for so many, I see.

 
At 1/17/2006 1:16 PM, Blogger Alie said...

People are people, there are always similarities and differences. And it's always easier to see in black and white than in color...

 
At 1/17/2006 2:31 PM, Blogger Elster said...

It's funny, when I see more chareidi people on the street, I am always amazed how different we are, despite belonging to the same World of the Jew. Yet, if you asked me who I more alike, the Chareidi in a streimel and Beckisher or my office next door neigbor, I go with the chassid everytime. We may look different and talk different and even have different fundamental beliefs, but underneath that we are brothers.

 
At 1/17/2006 7:11 PM, Blogger Single and Frum in the City said...

I am new to the blog scene. I feel I have missed so much until I have joined. Now I see what some people have been saying.

 
At 1/17/2006 7:24 PM, Blogger Michelle said...

As you know, I love blogging. One thing about it is how it has revealed so many things that used to go on in semi-private. Before blogs, one might suggest wife-swapping is going on in Boro Park, but dismiss it because of lack of evidence, or sheer idealism. But now that Y.Y. is here to prove its existence, we are all in what's REALLY going on the world. The same goes for Elisheva and SemGirl--in fact, anyone from Lakewood who breaks the mold and proves that Lakewood isn't a blinders-wearing, Gemara toting neighborhood. It's real. With real people with real issues, and real movie theatre experiences, and office sex chat. That just begs the question-is this awareness for us to fix it, or to just enjoy the juicy gossip?

 
At 1/18/2006 1:11 AM, Blogger ifyouwillit said...

It's sad and unfortunate that there are ultra orthodox comminuties willing to close their eyes to what is different. I just read an article about a community in Israel protesting against a less religious houshold in the neighbourhood, trying to force them to leave town.

TRK, you're right, we learn the same torah, keep the same mitzvot, worship the same G-d, but the sinat chinam that is justified in the name of "protection from things we needn't know about" is not an excuse.

It is great that on the internet, people are able to come together, support themseleves and each other, creating a little bit of unity that so many communites lack.

 
At 1/19/2006 8:45 AM, Blogger Littleredridinghoodie said...

Thank you too.

 
At 1/19/2006 9:03 AM, Blogger longbrownponytail said...

Hi,
I have been more of a reader than player but I agree. I hope to post more soon.

 
At 1/19/2006 9:07 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

http://www.hillel.org/hillel/newhille.nsf/0/E609A25CA4E887CC852567D5007076DB?OpenDocument

 
At 1/19/2006 9:22 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

"סומא פטור מן המצוות"

"A blind person is completely exempt from keeping Torah laws"

Talmud Nedarim 7B quoting the famous commentary the רן "RAN"

On the subject of Tikun Klali:

I just read this great site, I thought I would share.

 
At 1/19/2006 3:15 PM, Blogger araya(uh-ray-uh) said...

I guess I'm sort of new here too but I love blogging, it has given me a place where who I am and who you are doesn't matter.
Everyone really has the same issues, it's just hard to find a place where you aren't ashamed to mention them.

 
At 1/20/2006 6:54 AM, Blogger On The Derech said...

I love the blogging world. It's a place for people to finaly 'say' the things that our communities will never allow you to say. I just started my own blog. I hope to be able to say everything there which i was never able to talk about to any of my frum neighbors.

I love the support system i see on this website. Every time i come to a blog and read about other frum people struggling the same as i do it provides a warm place for us to stay sane!

 
At 1/22/2006 9:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dating Master,

http://64.233.161.104/search?q=cache:m5ORB5r8hdEJ:www.yarzheit.com/heavensregister/tikunklali.htm+tikun+klali+yarzheit&hl=en

 
At 1/22/2006 11:49 PM, Blogger dietgarage said...

i used to keep a diary (or try at least) but i find blogging to be far more cleansing as opposed to the feeling a journal gives me

 
At 1/23/2006 12:41 PM, Blogger Mata Hari said...

trk - you used to be much more fun. you responded to comments, you commented on other blogs. what happened?

 
At 1/25/2006 7:48 AM, Blogger Eshet Chayil said...

trk, was this post like a goodbye? Where are you?

 
At 1/31/2006 5:43 AM, Blogger Jameel @ The Muqata said...

FrumGirl said...
Jameel, I guess it is for me. I stand corrected if it isn't so for most. Hey, Jameel, you are still posting comments?


Hi - Sorry for the delay there. Personally, I found out the "identity" of anyone I thought was interesting enough to know. Not through cyber-sleuthing, but just emailing and asking.

While I like to keep my identity "anonymous" -- people know who I am, and it doesn't really bother me. That doesn't mean I want to be "outed"...

I'll give you an example. Last week I read through the YU "Guide to the Perplexed" student guide from 12 years ago. I couldn't stop laughing at how many of today's bloggers went to YU/Stern back then. We may be "anonymous" but its a very thin anonymity.

 

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