Women, listen up
Just wanna set a few facts straight about us males. Most of us are not constantly thinking about marriage, not imagining ourselves under the chuppah with our current date, picturing our wedding suit and what color flowers go with what color tie.
We don't consider our life incomplete unless we are betrothed, that our achievements in our career and elsewhere contain little meaning until we walk down that aisle. Give us time to get used to the idea of being tied down, to come around to the fact that we might never be able to partake in the hunt, the chase, the sweet sweet taste of conquest.
If we are in it, we are normally in it for a reason. It could be just for the sex, so you know how to check that out - don't give out the sex (sorry guys, it is the truth). But otherwise we are actually involved because we want to be, staying with it and showing that we have feelings for you, just that we aren't in a rush to run to that church/synagogue/mosque/Elvis-style Vegas wedding chapel.
Saying the old ILY is a really big deal for us - unless we are after play, in which case we'll say anything. But please GIVE US TIME. A friend of mine told me he was getting Mazeltovs from his friends and relatives before anything had happened, merely because she was into it and had told everyone that it was gonna happen, thereby spreading the Word across the country.
Laydees, if it is right after one month it will still be right after three or six months. So stick it out and lay off the pressure. Please. We run the other way from pressure. It pushes us into the arms of waiting harlots, distancing ourselves from commitment, tension and stress.
So just chill and wait it out. Please. If you love him, set him free. Give him the space, the freedom and the time to decide. That'll help him to choose you, accept him for who he is and if it's right it will happen.
For those delectable females who are worried this is a practical issue for me, have no fears my dears, it is not and probably will not be for quite some time at this rate.
TRK